Season’s Greetings!

Most people get some down time during this festive period and hopefully look forward to the new year with some “hope” that things will be better in the New Year.

Whilst hope is a wonderful thing, this is left too much to chance, so we need to “make” things happen in our lives if we want things to be better.

Things we cannot directly control we have to accept that we cannot control and let them go as they are just a part of life, so we don’t need to sweat over them.

Things we “can” control and influence directly in a positive manner, then we should attempt to do so if it is beneficial to do so and we “want” to affect them in some way.

Realise this difference that we do have the choice on many levels to influence the things that happen to us.

Take the time to reflect on what those are and if you’re unsure, spend some time to write them down and decide which things you can or can’t influence or change. Doing this simple exercise during this holiday period can give you clarity for the future, knowing what you can let go of without worry and those things you have the choice to influence and change.

Enjoy time with loved ones, but also have some down time for reflection wherever possible

Do you have a mental “life” map as a guide?

This isn’t a literal map that you can buy from a store, but it should certainly be a kind of map, route or path to follow, to get you to a destination where you want to be. The destination, like an “X” marking the spot on a physical map, is your goal.

The mental “life” map, is a route to a success destination, rather than a physical location

The mental “life” map gives you a sense of purpose if you choose to follow it, because it shows you the path you have to tread. It gives you signposts directing you to that something more. Somewhere where you want to see yourself being.

The analogy sometimes given, is, you need a destination in order to begin the journey, so you need to be clear first of what you want out of life. The mental “life” map then gives you information for that journey.

Which route to take to navigate to that destination?

Which training will I need to help me get there?

What skills do I have to learn?

Shall I take the long and easy path or perhaps the shorter more tricky and challenging path?

You choose the direction you want to go on the map and how fast or slow you want to go too. You must ensure however, you have the right means of travel (energy and enthusiasm) and then follow the advice provided by the mental “life” map.

Without the map guiding you and informing you on the best way to turn, can be frustrating and leave you in limbo. This can lead to you mistakenly believing your life has no meaning or direction, leading to a disillusionment.

A UK term for this, is someone who is “lost” in life.

This is a real shame

So do you have a mental “life” map guiding you to an end goal?

One showing and suggesting the right direction to take on where you want to head to?

Or has this end destination not properly formed as yet, so the mental “life” map is of no use because you haven’t got a clue where you want to end up?

If not, you need to make time to find out where you want to get out of life. What is your purpose?

When you discover what this is, then your mental “life” map will become clearer and become easier to follow.

Money doesn’t make you happy…

We’ve all heard this statement haven’t we? That money doesn’t make you happy.

It’s strange however that is appears only people without money tend to say this?!?

I will stand corrected if I hear someone who does indeed “have a lot of money” say the same thing. So far, I am unaware whether this is the case.

You see this statement that money doesn’t make you happy is actually true. Money itself doesn’t buy your happiness, all it does it gives you the ability to purchase “things”. The “things” themselves don’t bring happiness. They may bring short term enjoyment, but that feeling is often short lived.

If however you have enough wealth, but you are NOT happy, then you can always “choose” to give it away to those that don’t have any.

I’m pretty sure those people who are the recipients of your generosity would accept it and be grateful of the gesture made by you. And the mere fact of giving any additional wealth and money you have to those that are in need of it (eg. good causes, people on the breadline, etc.) will give you something pleasurable in return, like a feeling of fulfilment and joy, because you have managed to do something good for others.

This is where true happiness lies. What you can do for others.

Money is not needed to do something good for others. It helps for sure, but it isn’t needed. You can gain happiness just by doing good deeds for others that are in need, and that doesn’t necessarily need money to do.

So to get happiness, don’t rely on money, instead take the focus off of yourself and do something to help others.

This will give you more than money ever could.

Thank someone today…

Genuinely thank someone today for something they have done and witness how it makes them feel…

Do it with sincerity and it could be for some straightforward act. It doesn’t need to be for something they have done that is huge.

It could be something as simple as someone serving you in a store, doing a small deed to help; or even someone who is just there for you with a smile.

But thank them sincerely for this.

By doing this you have made the world a better place, even for just this small gesture. You will have left them feeling slightly better because of your thanks, meaning they may reflect that feeling onto others that they may encounter too.

So the small deed of thanks to just one person, can make the world that slightly better place for many others.

So look to try and make this a regular “thing” where you thank someone each day and imagine the good it can do in the world.

Don’t worry about anyone’s response, just stick to thanking someone each day. This will make you feel good for doing this as well.

Is it idleness or lack of opportunity?

I often wonder whether people who are unsuccessful in life blame the circumstances around them for their lack of success. Or they blame the lack of opportunity for their lack of progress.

Or are they merely suffering from idleness, where they see the opportunities, but just choose to do absolutely nothing to gain advantage from those opportunities?

Or even worse, don’t even “see” the opportunities when they appear in the first place, by turning a blind eye?

I have long wondered this because I have been fortunate to run several businesses in different countries over the years and had to employ people in various capacities.

Even when opportunities are simple, a certain demographic of people laments that the option is not for them, even though they are supposedly looking for work.

Granted you don’t often know what is going on in people’s personal lives to give this sort of response. However, if they don’t “choose” to take the opportunities when they appear, they really should refrain from moaning about the lack of opportunity.

This, in my opinion, is probably the worst element of all. Moaning about not taking an opportunity and then belittling or complaining there are no opportunities when they haven’t even “tried”.

People from less well-off backgrounds, not only grasp opportunities when they appear but seem to excel in them, making them work for them. This therefore allows them more life choices that were closed to them previously.

This type of example then demonstrates to me that the opportunity is not at fault nor the potential lack of opportunity as some have lamented.

Instead, it is always the people who have the wrong attitude towards opportunity in the first place. And those that lament, are the ones who I probably have an issue with the most.

So what do you think? Do you agree? Or is lack of opportunity the real reason?

Action or Inaction?

Idleness is a choice and a major key to poverty in society. Idleness is a part of fear. Fear of the outcome. Fear that the outcome is perhaps worse than what you have now? So fear grips and inaction is the result. Regular inaction leads to idleness and apathy. A spiral we may struggle to remove ourselves from.

What crooked thinking.

Because any outcome is unknown and the crooked manifestation of the outcome is just a poor thought process in your head. Fear perhaps that if you act, may require energy that you feel you don’t possess and then the outcome is a failure. So the action and energy were wasted. Thus the poor thought is to believe it is not worth trying in the first place.

How wrong this is.

Opportunity comes to all of us during our lifetime. We don’t know what that opportunity is and in what form it takes, but it does appear during our lifetime. However, it takes courage to spot it when it appears and action to grab it and use it. But you have to have tried and acted on numerous occasions, even without success, until you eventually find that success. If you fail to act believing it is not worthwhile, you will miss those opportunities when they DO appear

The action seems to be linked to eventual success, whereas inaction is a guarantee of failure

So it’s better to act even if you’re unsure of the outcome, as action will eventually bring success. Whereas inaction is a failure by default.

So change your thinking and understand inaction leads to no-where, but action, repeated, will eventually lead to successes

Be YOUR best!

In the UK there is an advert on TV that is for the British Army and they say to come and join them to “Be the Best”!

What a great mantra to live by. Because you should strive to Be Your Best in Life no matter what you are doing. Sorry, British Army, but you don’t need to join the army in order to be your best, however, I do love the slogan and what they are meaning by the advert.

Although I am not recruiting for the army, they do challenge you as an individual and “encourage” you to do things you may not necessarily want to do, but by attempting these things which in essence are out of your comfort zone, you discover talents you did not know you possessed. So they do mean it when they say, be the best!

Now as I said above, you don’t need to join the army to be your best. You just need to be your best in everything you do in your day-to-day life and do things every day to make the world a better place.

Let’s be honest, you will leave this stage called “Life” at some point in the future, so how do you want to leave your legacy? Don’t you want to leave this planet that little bit better than when you found it?

So when you do eventually get to your death bed you can feel proud that you gave it your best and lived your life as best you could. Because by giving it your best and trying your best at everything you try and do, you actually leave the world a better place by default.

So strive to be your best, no matter what, you’ll be glad you did and the world will thank you for it