Everything all around us is just “data”

How we interpret that data is dependant on us.

It’s the lens it passes through (or filter) that is in our brain that determines how we perceive this data. Our biases (and some of which are unconscious) influence how we interpret that data and then the conclusion they steer us to.

It’s this lens or filter that biases these inputs, that we need to be aware of and try to control and sometimes “peg” it back. So all you see is the raw data, instead of a manipulated or biased version after it has entered into your mind.

Emotions often distort the data still further as does your well-being at the time the data is received. So ensuring you are in a “good place” to begin with, allows the data to be less manipulated. If your well-being isn’t that great, then you may view the data in a less favourable state!

This is why two different people can witness the exact same event but have different interpretations of that event, based on their “filters” altering what was received. Only those training in observing data and reporting it “as is” can accurately ignore and suppress the bias filters.

So when we see something or are involved in a situation, try not to distort it with any personal bias, but look at it in the raw form it came to you if it is at all possible, which is just data.

Unless your opinion about that data is sought after, try not to give your opinion. Rather be like a computer and just report on the pure data you have received. Don’t be tempted to add your interpretation of that data.

Be Smart! Learn from Others!

Instead of trying to show people how smart you are, which generally involves you talking and others listening, why not change it around a bit and do the smarter thing and that is learning to “listen” to others more, instead?

You will find that by listening more, you will discover just how smart OTHER PEOPLE ACTUALLY ARE.

They will freely divulge all sorts of information and some of it will be valuable.

Then if anything valuable is said, just add to your pool of knowledge thus making you smarter!

There will always be opportunities to show others how smart you are, but don’t force it. And don’t worry if you have to do more listening than talking. Wait for your moments, rather than trying to force your “moments” onto others.

For when those opportunities come, others will realise then how smart you actually are.

Are the little details always missing?

We recently had some work done on our house and we had several different work people from different companies, all responsible for different items during the building process.

Some were responsible for the brick work, others for the electrical, others plumbing and so on.

Now it was SO noticeable between the different work streams, who was actually proud of what they were doing and wanted to do a professional job. Whilst some, just seemed to go through the motions and did the “job“, but it was missing the little details that made it a “great” job.

So my question to you in whatever profession or industry that you work in, do you do your BEST? Or do you merely just do what is required?

Are you leaving the customer or recipient of your work thinking,
“WOW, this was a great job well done, and a great piece of work”, singing your praises?

Or does the recipient of your work, merely think, “Meh!” this was just “average“…?

Remember you KNOW what is good and what isn’t quite your highest standard.

But don’t think others won’t appreciate what you do, so why bother to go that extra mile?

Go the extra mile because it is the “RIGHT” thing to do and you do it because you have integrity and KNOW it is the right thing to do!

Can you separate your emotions whilst in a work environment?

Some people believe that when you are at work, you are in a “work mode” so if for any reason you are told that you haven’t done something right, you should be told this in no uncertain terms, which can be quite “robust“.

They go on to say that criticism at work should not be a “soft” correction, but rather it can be harsh because it is a work environment and you should in no way take the criticism personally. Further justification is because the criticism or correction is aimed against the “act” of working and not the individual itself. But separating the two is not easy.

Whilst this makes sense in principle because in a work environment you need to realise you do have to reach a certain standard of work quality, however, it’s the HOW you are told, is where I have a real issue with.

You see, we are human beings with feelings that we take away criticism personally which CAN and DOES have a profound effect on our psyche in far worse ways than we may have initially realised.

Think back…

If you have been subjected to criticism in the past, I bet you can recall that criticism even TODAY and it may have occurred years ago or even during school times. Even if the intention of whoever was providing the correction may not have been to affect you as a person directly, the mere fact you can recall it shows it HAS had a profound effect on you. As the act wasn’t just being criticized, but you took it as personal criticism too.

We remember bad things more than good things because it is inbuilt into us as a past survival skill. You need to remember bad things so they are not repeated. However, too many of these “bad” things that are delivered in the “wrong manner” does have long term negative effects.

Let’s however also get this into some perspective…yes, you can advise or provide correction (not criticism) in a job environment, where it is “justified“. But you MUST do so in a considered manner not attacking the individual at all. You need to detach the act from the person and NEVER combine the two, otherwise, you are inadvertently inflicting long term psychological damage on the individual.

Remember it is false to believe or assume that in a work environment, a work colleague has detached their feelings from work and views the work environment as merely a “work environment” with no emotional attachment whatsoever.

This is simply false.

At work, you may make some friends, because you are working with them regularly and who some can go on to become friends outside of your work environment. This means you have a personal and emotional attachment to that work. So saying we should detach emotionally from a work environment is highly fraught with falsehoods and in reality, very hard to actually achieve.

So tread carefully when giving criticism at work as you may be doing way more harm than you in fact realise.

Be a student to life…

Always be a student in life as you don’t have all the answers. Everyone around you can offer you life experiences that can add to your own wisdom.

Remember you don’t have to learn everything from experience itself. You can learn so much using other’s people’s experience and wisdom, so adding to your own wisdom without having to sometimes experience the pain of the “experience” itself.

By being that student of life, listening, and learning from the experiences of others, will allow you to gain a wealth of wisdom that you can share with others too.

Resulting in YOU helping others on their life journey too.

Your “Comfort Zone” is great, right?

Your comfort zone should be renamed to your “moaning” zone!
A lot of people moan about life and why it’s not fair, but then DON’T do anything to try and improve things!

They just wallow in their “moaning” zone all day long!

Quit moaning and start doing! This will help you to get out of the comfort zone, which in reality is not comfortable at all, because if it was, people would quit moaning whilst in it!

So let’s stop calling it the “comfort zone”, but instead start calling it the “moaning zone” from now on, shall we? Because that is a truer reflection of what it is! 😉

10 things…that make you the best YOU!

  1. Great work ethic
  2. Giving 100% effort, every time
  3. Having an “attractive” personality (if you don’t know what this is, ask me!)
  4. Being teachable
  5. A passionate “can do” attitude
  6. Giving to others that need it
  7. Respecting other people
  8. Never prejudging
  9. Give love when it is needed
  10. Uplift others wherever you are