What is your “A” to “R” ratio?

Your “A” (Activity) to “R” (Results) ratio.

If you want to be successful in whatever venture you are pursuing, then your activity in order to achieve the results you want to achieve needs to be in proportion to your expected result.

If you have visions of sitting on your rear end and doing very little, then it is very unlikely that the result you seek will come to fruition. If you want big results you need big activity.

And I don’t mean you need to work physically hard to achieve this. It is rather the proportion of work you do, be it online or offline, in order to make your success happen

Now some of you may say, “hold on, aren’t there some people online who earn millions with very little effort?”, well the media may give the impression that this is a common occurrence. In reality, this is very rare indeed. Just like winning the lottery by buying a ticket. It “can” happen where you win the jackpot on a lottery, but the chances of it happening for you are incredibly slim.

Therefore control the things that are in your direct control of, and that is the activity you put in, in order to make your venture succeed.

So, ensure your A to R ratio is in proportion, as that is the way the results will follow the activity.

One final point is to make sure your activity is also “consistent and persistent” over a long period of time. This is what most successful people have done. They have been in a marathon not a sprint when it comes to their activity. It is this persistence and consistency matched with a high enough level of activity that produces the results

A hug used to just be a simple hug…?

A hug ordinarily was just that…a hug and no more over in just a few moments.

Whilst it gives a sense of warmth and love whilst you are embraced in the hug, once it is finished it is over

Now during the pandemic, the simple hug has oh so much more meaning. Because we have had to endure long periods of time of not seeing and holding loved ones dear. So resulting in craving the hug so much more.

More than ever the hug is one of the single things we are missing as if our bodies need the hug “fix” from people who are special in our lives. And when the hug is deprived for so long, we feel less and somehow incomplete.

Once this pandemic is over and we can as a population revert back to some sort of normality, then the simple hug will be no longer be a simple hug. It will be cherished and appreciated SO much more than ever before, having been deprived to so many.

So when you are fortunate enough to next receive that magical hug from a loved one, remember that moment when you are being held. Ensure it isn’t as brief as normal, but instead, hold that hug and feeling as long as you can, so the wonderful love, warmth, and feeling can be etched into your mind and the hug can last a lifetime!

You don’t need to go for 100%

A lot of people believe they need to strive for 100% perfection.

This is actually daft as it can never actually be achieved? As you will always find holes or tweaks that need to be made, to push yourself that bit further, but is this just wasted effort that could be focused elsewhere?

Once you have hit over 90 to 95% success rate, those last few percentage points are really tough to achieve and in some cases, even impossible to reach. So you really need to assess whether those extra percentage points are worth spending the time, money, and resources on?

Wouldn’t your energy be better placed elsewhere?

This is a difficult juggling act

Now you may be thinking, “But Tony shouldn’t you strive for it anyway?”

Yes, you should strive for 100% when first starting out or when you are seriously below the line that you want to be over and need to make some big changes. And yes the 100% target gives you something clear to aim for.

But when you are within close proximity of your goal, you do need to look back at the successes you have achieved thus far and seriously contemplate whether those last remaining percentage gains are actually worth going for?

Because if your customers or clients are still rolling in and you haven’t reached 100% then what you are doing is working, so maybe your focus shouldn’t be on reaching the remaining 100% target, but instead improving the experience elsewhere

Everything all around us is just “data”

How we interpret that data is dependant on us.

It’s the lens it passes through (or filter) that is in our brain that determines how we perceive this data. Our biases (and some of which are unconscious) influence how we interpret that data and then the conclusion they steer us to.

It’s this lens or filter that biases these inputs, that we need to be aware of and try to control and sometimes “peg” it back. So all you see is the raw data, instead of a manipulated or biased version after it has entered into your mind.

Emotions often distort the data still further as does your well-being at the time the data is received. So ensuring you are in a “good place” to begin with, allows the data to be less manipulated. If your well-being isn’t that great, then you may view the data in a less favourable state!

This is why two different people can witness the exact same event but have different interpretations of that event, based on their “filters” altering what was received. Only those training in observing data and reporting it “as is” can accurately ignore and suppress the bias filters.

So when we see something or are involved in a situation, try not to distort it with any personal bias, but look at it in the raw form it came to you if it is at all possible, which is just data.

Unless your opinion about that data is sought after, try not to give your opinion. Rather be like a computer and just report on the pure data you have received. Don’t be tempted to add your interpretation of that data.

Be Smart! Learn from Others!

Instead of trying to show people how smart you are, which generally involves you talking and others listening, why not change it around a bit and do the smarter thing and that is learning to “listen” to others more, instead?

You will find that by listening more, you will discover just how smart OTHER PEOPLE ACTUALLY ARE.

They will freely divulge all sorts of information and some of it will be valuable.

Then if anything valuable is said, just add to your pool of knowledge thus making you smarter!

There will always be opportunities to show others how smart you are, but don’t force it. And don’t worry if you have to do more listening than talking. Wait for your moments, rather than trying to force your “moments” onto others.

For when those opportunities come, others will realise then how smart you actually are.

Are the little details always missing?

We recently had some work done on our house and we had several different work people from different companies, all responsible for different items during the building process.

Some were responsible for the brick work, others for the electrical, others plumbing and so on.

Now it was SO noticeable between the different work streams, who was actually proud of what they were doing and wanted to do a professional job. Whilst some, just seemed to go through the motions and did the “job“, but it was missing the little details that made it a “great” job.

So my question to you in whatever profession or industry that you work in, do you do your BEST? Or do you merely just do what is required?

Are you leaving the customer or recipient of your work thinking,
“WOW, this was a great job well done, and a great piece of work”, singing your praises?

Or does the recipient of your work, merely think, “Meh!” this was just “average“…?

Remember you KNOW what is good and what isn’t quite your highest standard.

But don’t think others won’t appreciate what you do, so why bother to go that extra mile?

Go the extra mile because it is the “RIGHT” thing to do and you do it because you have integrity and KNOW it is the right thing to do!

Can you separate your emotions whilst in a work environment?

Some people believe that when you are at work, you are in a “work mode” so if for any reason you are told that you haven’t done something right, you should be told this in no uncertain terms, which can be quite “robust“.

They go on to say that criticism at work should not be a “soft” correction, but rather it can be harsh because it is a work environment and you should in no way take the criticism personally. Further justification is because the criticism or correction is aimed against the “act” of working and not the individual itself. But separating the two is not easy.

Whilst this makes sense in principle because in a work environment you need to realise you do have to reach a certain standard of work quality, however, it’s the HOW you are told, is where I have a real issue with.

You see, we are human beings with feelings that we take away criticism personally which CAN and DOES have a profound effect on our psyche in far worse ways than we may have initially realised.

Think back…

If you have been subjected to criticism in the past, I bet you can recall that criticism even TODAY and it may have occurred years ago or even during school times. Even if the intention of whoever was providing the correction may not have been to affect you as a person directly, the mere fact you can recall it shows it HAS had a profound effect on you. As the act wasn’t just being criticized, but you took it as personal criticism too.

We remember bad things more than good things because it is inbuilt into us as a past survival skill. You need to remember bad things so they are not repeated. However, too many of these “bad” things that are delivered in the “wrong manner” does have long term negative effects.

Let’s however also get this into some perspective…yes, you can advise or provide correction (not criticism) in a job environment, where it is “justified“. But you MUST do so in a considered manner not attacking the individual at all. You need to detach the act from the person and NEVER combine the two, otherwise, you are inadvertently inflicting long term psychological damage on the individual.

Remember it is false to believe or assume that in a work environment, a work colleague has detached their feelings from work and views the work environment as merely a “work environment” with no emotional attachment whatsoever.

This is simply false.

At work, you may make some friends, because you are working with them regularly and who some can go on to become friends outside of your work environment. This means you have a personal and emotional attachment to that work. So saying we should detach emotionally from a work environment is highly fraught with falsehoods and in reality, very hard to actually achieve.

So tread carefully when giving criticism at work as you may be doing way more harm than you in fact realise.