If you think you can’t change the world…

Then you are probably right and you are one of those that certainly can’t.

However, if you change some small element in YOUR life for the better, you have changed the world in a small way.

You are part of the world, so if you change something in your life, that makes you better, this can ripple outwards and influence others, contributing to a better world. Here are some examples:

  1. Improve Your Health: Pursuing a healthier lifestyle not only benefits you but also sets an example for others. (e.g., by choosing to eat whole, nutritious foods and maintaining regular exercise, you may inspire friends and family to do the same, leading to a community that values health and wellness.)
  2. Cultivate Kindness: Small acts of kindness can have a huge impact. Make it a habit to offer compliments, assistance, and support whenever you can. Over time, this positivity can spread and become part of the cultural norm.
  3. Adopt Sustainable Habits: Environmental changes often start with individual action. By reducing your carbon footprint (e.g., using public transport, recycling, minimizing waste), you encourage others to reconsider their environmental impact.
  4. Engage in Lifelong Learning: Commit to learning new skills or improving your knowledge. This not only enhances your life but can motivate others to prioritize education and personal growth, potentially leading to more informed and skilled communities.
  5. Foster Inclusivity: When you strive to be more accepting and inclusive in your interactions, you create a more tolerant and understanding social circle that can extend to a wider community.
  6. Spread Optimism: Maintaining a positive outlook can be infectious. By looking for the good in situations and expressing gratitude, you’ll likely affect the attitudes of those around you.
  7. Practice Financial Responsibility: Being mindful of your finances and making ethical purchasing decisions can inspire others to do the same, leading to a more economically stable and conscious society.
  8. Support Social Causes: Actively contribute to causes you believe in, whether through volunteering, donating, or educating others about the issues. Such involvement can ignite collective action for societal improvement.
  9. Build Strong Relationships: By working on your relationships and creating trusted bonds, you help to build a network of support that can be beneficial in times of need, promoting a sense of community and shared responsibility.
  10. Encourage Creativity: Share your creativity with the world, whether it’s through art, music, writing, or any other form. Doing so can inspire others to express themselves and find joy in creation.

It’s important to remember that while these actions might initially seem small, they can play a significant part in fostering a more positive environment both for yourself and for those around you.

And these small changes for you CAN make the world a better place for everyone too!

New year = New Start?

The new year is firmly with us, so how is it going so far?

Has it stated with a new start to your life? A new sense of purpose?

Perhaps even making lots of resolutions to make a change one way or another?

So how is it all going? Is the enthusiasm of a new start already starting to wane? Or are you still strong of character to still pursue your goals with the same gusto as to how you started them?

I do really hope that you are progressing nicely with your goals and making those small incremental changes needed to bring positive changes. Sometimes many of us fall foul because we want everything to happen quickly, when in reality that simply doesn’t happen that way.

Lasting change takes time to implement using consistent and persistent effort. It can’t manifest itself over just a couple of weeks, otherwise it wasn’t really a life changing goal to begin with.

So my message to you is, hang in there. Focus on the end goal of what it is you want to achieve. Don’t focus on the here and now as any small gains may be too small to really recognise as it is too soon. You only start to measure small wins or milestones after about a month initially. Then assess as to how things are going then and adjust things then if necessary.

Don’t lose heart, keep on going. Just pat yourself on the back for starting as that is actually the biggest hurdle most people struggle with.

So if you have at least started on your pursuit of your goal, congratulate yourself for taking that first step. It’s just now you need to remember to NOT stop until the goal is reached.

Season’s Greetings!

Most people get some down time during this festive period and hopefully look forward to the new year with some “hope” that things will be better in the New Year.

Whilst hope is a wonderful thing, this is left too much to chance, so we need to “make” things happen in our lives if we want things to be better.

Things we cannot directly control we have to accept that we cannot control and let them go as they are just a part of life, so we don’t need to sweat over them.

Things we “can” control and influence directly in a positive manner, then we should attempt to do so if it is beneficial to do so and we “want” to affect them in some way.

Realise this difference that we do have the choice on many levels to influence the things that happen to us.

Take the time to reflect on what those are and if you’re unsure, spend some time to write them down and decide which things you can or can’t influence or change. Doing this simple exercise during this holiday period can give you clarity for the future, knowing what you can let go of without worry and those things you have the choice to influence and change.

Enjoy time with loved ones, but also have some down time for reflection wherever possible

Do you have a mental “life” map as a guide?

This isn’t a literal map that you can buy from a store, but it should certainly be a kind of map, route or path to follow, to get you to a destination where you want to be. The destination, like an “X” marking the spot on a physical map, is your goal.

The mental “life” map, is a route to a success destination, rather than a physical location

The mental “life” map gives you a sense of purpose if you choose to follow it, because it shows you the path you have to tread. It gives you signposts directing you to that something more. Somewhere where you want to see yourself being.

The analogy sometimes given, is, you need a destination in order to begin the journey, so you need to be clear first of what you want out of life. The mental “life” map then gives you information for that journey.

Which route to take to navigate to that destination?

Which training will I need to help me get there?

What skills do I have to learn?

Shall I take the long and easy path or perhaps the shorter more tricky and challenging path?

You choose the direction you want to go on the map and how fast or slow you want to go too. You must ensure however, you have the right means of travel (energy and enthusiasm) and then follow the advice provided by the mental “life” map.

Without the map guiding you and informing you on the best way to turn, can be frustrating and leave you in limbo. This can lead to you mistakenly believing your life has no meaning or direction, leading to a disillusionment.

A UK term for this, is someone who is “lost” in life.

This is a real shame

So do you have a mental “life” map guiding you to an end goal?

One showing and suggesting the right direction to take on where you want to head to?

Or has this end destination not properly formed as yet, so the mental “life” map is of no use because you haven’t got a clue where you want to end up?

If not, you need to make time to find out where you want to get out of life. What is your purpose?

When you discover what this is, then your mental “life” map will become clearer and become easier to follow.

Money doesn’t make you happy…

We’ve all heard this statement haven’t we? That money doesn’t make you happy.

It’s strange however that is appears only people without money tend to say this?!?

I will stand corrected if I hear someone who does indeed “have a lot of money” say the same thing. So far, I am unaware whether this is the case.

You see this statement that money doesn’t make you happy is actually true. Money itself doesn’t buy your happiness, all it does it gives you the ability to purchase “things”. The “things” themselves don’t bring happiness. They may bring short term enjoyment, but that feeling is often short lived.

If however you have enough wealth, but you are NOT happy, then you can always “choose” to give it away to those that don’t have any.

I’m pretty sure those people who are the recipients of your generosity would accept it and be grateful of the gesture made by you. And the mere fact of giving any additional wealth and money you have to those that are in need of it (eg. good causes, people on the breadline, etc.) will give you something pleasurable in return, like a feeling of fulfilment and joy, because you have managed to do something good for others.

This is where true happiness lies. What you can do for others.

Money is not needed to do something good for others. It helps for sure, but it isn’t needed. You can gain happiness just by doing good deeds for others that are in need, and that doesn’t necessarily need money to do.

So to get happiness, don’t rely on money, instead take the focus off of yourself and do something to help others.

This will give you more than money ever could.

Thank someone today…

Genuinely thank someone today for something they have done and witness how it makes them feel…

Do it with sincerity and it could be for some straightforward act. It doesn’t need to be for something they have done that is huge.

It could be something as simple as someone serving you in a store, doing a small deed to help; or even someone who is just there for you with a smile.

But thank them sincerely for this.

By doing this you have made the world a better place, even for just this small gesture. You will have left them feeling slightly better because of your thanks, meaning they may reflect that feeling onto others that they may encounter too.

So the small deed of thanks to just one person, can make the world that slightly better place for many others.

So look to try and make this a regular “thing” where you thank someone each day and imagine the good it can do in the world.

Don’t worry about anyone’s response, just stick to thanking someone each day. This will make you feel good for doing this as well.

Is it idleness or lack of opportunity?

I often wonder whether people who are unsuccessful in life blame the circumstances around them for their lack of success. Or they blame the lack of opportunity for their lack of progress.

Or are they merely suffering from idleness, where they see the opportunities, but just choose to do absolutely nothing to gain advantage from those opportunities?

Or even worse, don’t even “see” the opportunities when they appear in the first place, by turning a blind eye?

I have long wondered this because I have been fortunate to run several businesses in different countries over the years and had to employ people in various capacities.

Even when opportunities are simple, a certain demographic of people laments that the option is not for them, even though they are supposedly looking for work.

Granted you don’t often know what is going on in people’s personal lives to give this sort of response. However, if they don’t “choose” to take the opportunities when they appear, they really should refrain from moaning about the lack of opportunity.

This, in my opinion, is probably the worst element of all. Moaning about not taking an opportunity and then belittling or complaining there are no opportunities when they haven’t even “tried”.

People from less well-off backgrounds, not only grasp opportunities when they appear but seem to excel in them, making them work for them. This therefore allows them more life choices that were closed to them previously.

This type of example then demonstrates to me that the opportunity is not at fault nor the potential lack of opportunity as some have lamented.

Instead, it is always the people who have the wrong attitude towards opportunity in the first place. And those that lament, are the ones who I probably have an issue with the most.

So what do you think? Do you agree? Or is lack of opportunity the real reason?