What if what we experience is all a dream?

Someone posed a very interesting question today and that was, “what if all we experience (or think we are experiencing) is in actual fact a dream?”

So in essence what we are doing is in living within a vivid dream. So when we sleep that is the reality of existence…!?!

To be honest, I was blown away with this thought, as there is no real way of confirming or denying whether it is EVEN true or can be proved? So it was just a philosophical question in the end…

But it did lead me to think along similar lines, where, if we do act in a certain manner, then life tends to reflect this manner back towards us, so we end up experiencing more of what we give out. Maybe not straight away, but perhaps later on in some way.

This then would imply we are not mere feathers blowing in the “wind of life” and carried along the path of existence, unsure of where the wind will take us next.

But instead, our actions can direct the flow of the “metaphorical feather in the wind” and we can influence where the feather moves to (although not perfectly) but certainly, in the “general” direction we want to go in

So if we behave badly, then the feather moving in the wind of life, will travel toward dangers and places we don’t actually want to go to. Whereas if we live our life with purpose and try and do good as best we can with our abilities, then the feather is steered towards nicer places and outcomes.

Meaning we are in some control of our direction in life and are not merely leaving “everything” to mere chance

Do you love your job?

Some people claim to “love” their job!
I am not so sure? They may merely like it a lot, which is great. Loving it however is a whole different ball game.

Those who are working for themselves “may” love what they do, but this is different because they are working for themselves and not a boss.

Those who are working for a boss, however, are actually less likely to actually “love” their job despite what they may believe. Although I am happy for people to tell me differently of course.

You see, if you don’t agree with this, because you truly believe you love your job, then please go to your boss when you see them next, and say, “keep the pay-check, I love my job I’ll do it for nothing every-day!”

In reality, I’d be surprised if anyone that had a boss did that! Because we are after all wanting to receive money for the job we are performing.

So you may really “like” your job rather than “love” your job, which is still admirable.

If you are willing to do your job for nothing because you do truly love it, then I tip my hat to you as you are in a minority and I guess your boss would be very happy with you!

If you are in this minorty and would be willing to do your job without a pay-check, can I make a suggestion?

Take that passion for the job and instead, try and do it for yourself, so you work for yourself doing this work. That way, you can benefit financially as well as love what you do.

Which is a WIN-WIN scenario.

Don’t complicate things…

This very simple post is a testimony to this statement…

Simple. Short. On Point…

Get up
Brush teeth
Turn up
Work hard and give your best always
Act with integrity
Everything else will just work out fine!

What is your “A” to “R” ratio?

Your “A” (Activity) to “R” (Results) ratio.

If you want to be successful in whatever venture you are pursuing, then your activity in order to achieve the results you want to achieve needs to be in proportion to your expected result.

If you have visions of sitting on your rear end and doing very little, then it is very unlikely that the result you seek will come to fruition. If you want big results you need big activity.

And I don’t mean you need to work physically hard to achieve this. It is rather the proportion of work you do, be it online or offline, in order to make your success happen

Now some of you may say, “hold on, aren’t there some people online who earn millions with very little effort?”, well the media may give the impression that this is a common occurrence. In reality, this is very rare indeed. Just like winning the lottery by buying a ticket. It “can” happen where you win the jackpot on a lottery, but the chances of it happening for you are incredibly slim.

Therefore control the things that are in your direct control of, and that is the activity you put in, in order to make your venture succeed.

So, ensure your A to R ratio is in proportion, as that is the way the results will follow the activity.

One final point is to make sure your activity is also “consistent and persistent” over a long period of time. This is what most successful people have done. They have been in a marathon not a sprint when it comes to their activity. It is this persistence and consistency matched with a high enough level of activity that produces the results

A hug used to just be a simple hug…?

A hug ordinarily was just that…a hug and no more over in just a few moments.

Whilst it gives a sense of warmth and love whilst you are embraced in the hug, once it is finished it is over

Now during the pandemic, the simple hug has oh so much more meaning. Because we have had to endure long periods of time of not seeing and holding loved ones dear. So resulting in craving the hug so much more.

More than ever the hug is one of the single things we are missing as if our bodies need the hug “fix” from people who are special in our lives. And when the hug is deprived for so long, we feel less and somehow incomplete.

Once this pandemic is over and we can as a population revert back to some sort of normality, then the simple hug will be no longer be a simple hug. It will be cherished and appreciated SO much more than ever before, having been deprived to so many.

So when you are fortunate enough to next receive that magical hug from a loved one, remember that moment when you are being held. Ensure it isn’t as brief as normal, but instead, hold that hug and feeling as long as you can, so the wonderful love, warmth, and feeling can be etched into your mind and the hug can last a lifetime!

You don’t need to go for 100%

A lot of people believe they need to strive for 100% perfection.

This is actually daft as it can never actually be achieved? As you will always find holes or tweaks that need to be made, to push yourself that bit further, but is this just wasted effort that could be focused elsewhere?

Once you have hit over 90 to 95% success rate, those last few percentage points are really tough to achieve and in some cases, even impossible to reach. So you really need to assess whether those extra percentage points are worth spending the time, money, and resources on?

Wouldn’t your energy be better placed elsewhere?

This is a difficult juggling act

Now you may be thinking, “But Tony shouldn’t you strive for it anyway?”

Yes, you should strive for 100% when first starting out or when you are seriously below the line that you want to be over and need to make some big changes. And yes the 100% target gives you something clear to aim for.

But when you are within close proximity of your goal, you do need to look back at the successes you have achieved thus far and seriously contemplate whether those last remaining percentage gains are actually worth going for?

Because if your customers or clients are still rolling in and you haven’t reached 100% then what you are doing is working, so maybe your focus shouldn’t be on reaching the remaining 100% target, but instead improving the experience elsewhere

Everything all around us is just “data”

How we interpret that data is dependant on us.

It’s the lens it passes through (or filter) that is in our brain that determines how we perceive this data. Our biases (and some of which are unconscious) influence how we interpret that data and then the conclusion they steer us to.

It’s this lens or filter that biases these inputs, that we need to be aware of and try to control and sometimes “peg” it back. So all you see is the raw data, instead of a manipulated or biased version after it has entered into your mind.

Emotions often distort the data still further as does your well-being at the time the data is received. So ensuring you are in a “good place” to begin with, allows the data to be less manipulated. If your well-being isn’t that great, then you may view the data in a less favourable state!

This is why two different people can witness the exact same event but have different interpretations of that event, based on their “filters” altering what was received. Only those training in observing data and reporting it “as is” can accurately ignore and suppress the bias filters.

So when we see something or are involved in a situation, try not to distort it with any personal bias, but look at it in the raw form it came to you if it is at all possible, which is just data.

Unless your opinion about that data is sought after, try not to give your opinion. Rather be like a computer and just report on the pure data you have received. Don’t be tempted to add your interpretation of that data.