Author: Tony Fasulo

Some people believe that when you are at work, you are in a “work mode” so if for any reason you are told that you haven’t done something right, you should be told this in no uncertain terms, which can be quite “robust“.

They go on to say that criticism at work should not be a “soft” correction, but rather it can be harsh because it is a work environment and you should in no way take the criticism personally. Further justification is because the criticism or correction is aimed against the “act” of working and not the individual itself. But separating the two is not easy.

Whilst this makes sense in principle because in a work environment you need to realise you do have to reach a certain standard of work quality, however, it’s the HOW you are told, is where I have a real issue with.

You see, we are human beings with feelings that we take away criticism personally which CAN and DOES have a profound effect on our psyche in far worse ways than we may have initially realised.

Think back…

If you have been subjected to criticism in the past, I bet you can recall that criticism even TODAY and it may have occurred years ago or even during school times. Even if the intention of whoever was providing the correction may not have been to affect you as a person directly, the mere fact you can recall it shows it HAS had a profound effect on you. As the act wasn’t just being criticized, but you took it as personal criticism too.

We remember bad things more than good things because it is inbuilt into us as a past survival skill. You need to remember bad things so they are not repeated. However, too many of these “bad” things that are delivered in the “wrong manner” does have long term negative effects.

Let’s however also get this into some perspective…yes, you can advise or provide correction (not criticism) in a job environment, where it is “justified“. But you MUST do so in a considered manner not attacking the individual at all. You need to detach the act from the person and NEVER combine the two, otherwise, you are inadvertently inflicting long term psychological damage on the individual.

Remember it is false to believe or assume that in a work environment, a work colleague has detached their feelings from work and views the work environment as merely a “work environment” with no emotional attachment whatsoever.

This is simply false.

At work, you may make some friends, because you are working with them regularly and who some can go on to become friends outside of your work environment. This means you have a personal and emotional attachment to that work. So saying we should detach emotionally from a work environment is highly fraught with falsehoods and in reality, very hard to actually achieve.

So tread carefully when giving criticism at work as you may be doing way more harm than you in fact realise.

Always be a student in life as you don’t have all the answers. Everyone around you can offer you life experiences that can add to your own wisdom.

Remember you don’t have to learn everything from experience itself. You can learn so much using other’s people’s experience and wisdom, so adding to your own wisdom without having to sometimes experience the pain of the “experience” itself.

By being that student of life, listening, and learning from the experiences of others, will allow you to gain a wealth of wisdom that you can share with others too.

Resulting in YOU helping others on their life journey too.

Your comfort zone should be renamed to your “moaning” zone!
A lot of people moan about life and why it’s not fair, but then DON’T do anything to try and improve things!

They just wallow in their “moaning” zone all day long!

Quit moaning and start doing! This will help you to get out of the comfort zone, which in reality is not comfortable at all, because if it was, people would quit moaning whilst in it!

So let’s stop calling it the “comfort zone”, but instead start calling it the “moaning zone” from now on, shall we? Because that is a truer reflection of what it is! 😉

1. Great work ethic
2. Giving 100% effort, every time
3. Having an “attractive” personality (if you don’t know what this is, ask me!)
4. Being teachable
5. A passionate “can do” attitude
6. Giving to others that need it
7. Respecting other people
8. Never prejudging
9. Give love when it is needed
10. Uplift others wherever you are

Watch your tongue as this is your strongest weapon!

Wounds from beatings, heal with time. But a harsh word can damage a mind & soul for a lifetime!

So don’t react with sharp words to bad incidents that happen to you. Understand those bad incidents, are just a part of life.

Instead, pause and think before responding, and watch what you say. Because a slipped word or phrase coming out of your mouth, can before a permanent scar on another’s person’s life!

I don’t have any regrets…

Hmm, maybe one or two perhaps…?

Ok, perhaps a few more than that

Let me see…?

1. Not trying as hard as I could when I was at school
2. Not listening to the successful people around me
3. Not trying harder at the trials, because I thought I didn’t have a chance when actually I did
4. Not saying yes when the business opportunity presented itself.
5. Not helping my friend with his success plan, which went on to earn tens of thousands
6. Not investing in myself when I had the chance

Ok, you’re right, I accept I’ve had a number of regrets in life. And I now realise that I should have seized the chances and opportunities when they presented themselves.

I am a real failure! And it’s too late for me, right?

Are you still breathing? If yes, then it’s NEVER too late!

Don’t live with regret! Do it now!

Now I have your attention I’ll tell you what it means…Simple Energy Xchange!

You pass on your personal energy to others around you and vice versa, just by being around them. Clearly, this will happen to a lesser degree at this present time, because of social distancing.

When we eventually get back to some normality and are able to go around and interact as we did before, this Energy Xchange will be prevalent once again.

This is like an invisible ripple effect.

Have you ever thrown a stone into a lake and watched the ripples spread out across the water? Well, your personal energy is doing the same when you come in close proximity to others.

If the energy you Xchange is negative energy because your attitude is bad, then this bad energy permeates onto others. However, at the same time, you are doing self-harm to yourself as the energy doesn’t just flow out of your body, but is coming back into itself as well. This cannot be good for your health if your attitude is terrible, as you are chipping away at yourself and causing internal harm.

The reverse is true if you radiate positive energy. You improve yourself internally and also affect positively those around you. A win-win scenario and great for your overall wellbeing too.

So practice positive S.E.X – in an “energy” sense! 😉