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I often encounter people who get really wound up by the general day-to-day events in life as if the world was about to end. I do want to say sometimes, “calm down…don’t let things out of your direct control wind you up!” because if they are not in your direct control then why do you get wound up?
Unless the “thing” that has just happened is a life or death event, then really do you have to get heated? Can’t you just breathe, let it go and realise that life does these sorts of things? It’s what life does. That’s why it’s called “Life!”

We know on occasions that life will deal us a bad hand or give us a situation we were not expecting. But then why get heated about it? Just understand it is a “life event” and just something that needs to be dealt with. Then try and deal with it in a controlled adult manner WITHOUT the need to give yourself a potential heart attack in the process.

If you do pause and realise this, you can deal with it in a more level-headed manner. Which when you look back on it later, you will realise would have been the best approach all along!

What value do you provide?
What do I mean by this? I am asking what value do you give to the planet? Is society and the world at large better off by you being here or are you a burden on it because you just take, take, take and not offering anything in return?
Remember the average adult lives a few decades on this planet, so that is ample time to contribute and make the world a better place. So what has been your contribution so far?
Have you made a difference in the right way? Have you left something for others to know you were an asset to the world?
If it were possible that you could look at yourself when you had finally died, how do you think those left behind would describe you? What eulogy would they give? How would you want them to remember you?
Would it be good? Would they sing your praises because of the contributions to others and the world at large you had made? Or would they find it difficult to find good words to describe you?
Thankfully if you are reading this then you are obviously not dead. So if you think you haven’t contributed to a better world enough yet, there is still time. No matter your circumstances and no matter what has gone on before in the past, today is a new day that hasn’t come along before so you can still make a difference in a positive way no matter how small
I urge you to make that difference and make the world a better place by helping all those around you as well as you are able to. Remember this clearly, we ALL have talents inside each of us to go and do good things for our family, friends and communities and when that final breath does eventually leave your body, loved ones and the world around you would hail your positive contributions and miss the fact you are gone.

If you had to choose what would you pick? Think for a moment…most people would mostly pick attitude because skills can be learnt but having a good attitude can’t really be taught.
However, this can’t be the correct choice for all situations. If you are having an operation you would want the doctor performing the surgery to have great skills and not necessarily just a great attitude. Both would be good of course, but if you had to choose I’d guess it would the skill. Because no matter how good the attitude of a friend would be, you wouldn’t want them operating unless they had the correct skills.
So attitude for sure is key, but skills are more important in certain situations!

We feed our stomachs around three times a day, but do we feed our mind? Our mind is very much like muscles in our body, i.e. if you use your muscles a lot they become toned, strong and flexible. If however, you don’t use your muscles, for whatever reason, they can become weak and inflexible. Your mind works in a similar way. If you tax your mind, it becomes stronger.
There are various things you can do to stimulate your mind, and scientists seem to conclude that stimulating the mind throughout our life helps you to remain active and alert in later life.
Reading, playing chess, doing puzzles, are all things that tax the mind.

Watching “general” television programs do not. I’m not saying avoid the TV at all costs, but limit it to just a few favourite programs rather than watching every bit of rubbish that seems to be transmitted on TV these days. After all these companies that transmit the television programmes are trying to maximise the largest audience figures they can, and most are not interested in whether the content of their programs are intellectually stimulating, but rather whether they can captivate and hold your attention with fun, intrigue, violence, horror etc. Continue reading “Feed Your Mind”

It doesn’t matter what you have or haven’t done up till now. It’s what you can do from today onwards that is important.

Grasp life, and live it fully. Don’t reach an age when you look back on your life and wish you’d done things differently or had taken more chances… As was mentioned in the famous film “Good Will Hunting” – “Seize the Day”!

If you’re unsure just what your magic is inside, ask others. Sometimes others are better judges on us than we are ourselves. Ask someone close who you can trust, just what they think your real passion is, and what do they see that we are good at. Because sometimes we don’t see what our hidden talents are, and it takes an observer from the outside to highlight them to us.

This could be the very ‘thing’ that you should be focusing on, and who knows, this would allow your ‘magic’ to come out and flourish.

You could eventually go to sleep at night knowing that your true potential was being reached. This would allow you to sleep comfortably knowing you are fulfilling what your inner being has always wanted to do or be

Let us first take this to the very basic level. We come into this world with nothing, and we eventually leave this world with nothing. It’s what you do in between that counts.
One thing you need to eradicate from your mind in the very beginning is that no-one is ‘better’ than you. Someone else may be better at a particular task or particular set of tasks, but we must make the distinction. They ‘may’ be better than you at these tasks, but that doesn’t make them better than you as a person. Unfortunately, we often get this muddled up. Many will fall into this trap, and put themselves in a self-imposed disadvantage before having even started! That’s why they decide up front they have no chance and never even ‘try’ things. Not a great way to look at life. But don’t be one of them! Remember we all go to the loo the same, no matter what shape, size or colour we are. We are all human beings!
So, we’ve established that no-one is better than us, but I know that many of you will take time to actually believe this. This tends to be because we compare something we aren’t necessary that good at doing, against someone who may be an expert in doing that task or activity. WRONG! Not a fair comparison, and again this goes into falsely confirming we are not as good as others and not believing in ourselves. Continue reading “Believe in Yourself”